I know the new tv season has started, but tonight, I popped in one of my “Sex and the City” discs and proceeded to watch the whole disc. A Carrie voiceover got me thinking….she said (and I’m paraphrasing), “Men can do something dramatic and profess their love and its generally thought of as romantic. Women can do the same thing and they are psychotic.” I could not agree with this statement more. For example, the other day Dr. Big send me this incredibly sweet text in the middle of the afternoon saying that he was thinking of me, that he loves me, and that he was looking forward to seeing me after work. Ladies….how hot is that?

Now, if the shoe had been on the other foot and I had sent that text to him, how many guys’ radars would be buzzing off the charts? “Watch out for this one….she could be crazy”

Now, Dr. Big and I have been together for almost 2 years and I doubt that would have been his first thought, but for normal dudes it would be weird.

But back to the professing of love. How do I show how in love I am, without being perceived as crazy? I think I have found a good solution for Dr. Big and I. He is big on the “actions speak louder than words” policy. So for me, the best way I can show love to him is giving him time to play Halo Reach, listening about his fantasy football league and cooking him dinner. And he shows me that he loves me when he listens to me bitch about work, plays Mario Kart with me, helps me with housework, and lets me control the radio.

I don’t think we (as a couple) have it all figured out, but we are getting there. We are learning. And in the process, sometimes the lines between romantic and psychotic get blurred. But that’s ok, because we are a work in progress.

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